Welcome to your Core Erotic Blueprint Evaluation When we discuss someone’s blueprint or wiring, we are referring to the part of the body’s physiology or neurology that determines or controls something. Likewise, a person’s Core Erotic Blueprint (CEB) refers to the fundamental way that one is erotically wired and reveals the best paths for their sexual arousal. This wiring is like a blueprint that can provide a person detailed information as to what types of sexual responses they may have, what needs they have, and what types of strengths and weaknesses they may have, as it relates to their sexuality. A Core Erotic Blueprint is created from a combination of both our genetic make-up and how we were brought up. For example, people who were not provided with lots of touch and sensation while growing up may live in the shadow of a particular wiring and tend to have a hard time feeling what is happening in their bodies. Conversely, those who were provided with lots of touch and sensation while growing up are more likely to more deeply connected to their bodies and thus would be more conditioned towards the positive expression of the Sensual type CEB. Fortunately, while we all have a core blueprint, due to neuroplasticity we are each able to create new wiring, thus expanding our expression of our own sexuality and opening the doors to what will bring us, and our partners, pleasure! The CEB Evaluation allows a couple to look at their individual wiring, as well as their partner’s, and discover how they may work together to create enhanced sexual compatibility. The following questions are provided in order for you to determine what your Core Erotic Blueprint may be. If you have a lover, have them answer this as well so that you may compare notes. Choose all the answers you find relevant for you. Name Email 1.During foreplay, I prefer A. Emotional connection and the anticipation of what is about to happen B. A hot bath, massage and slow kissing C. Psychological power plays, restraint, and dark fantasy D. Who needs foreplay? 2.I am most turned on when: A. My partner’s arousal increases. The more aroused they get the stronger my arousal B. I can get out of my head and relax more deeply into my body C. I am doing or fantasizing about something considered taboo D. My partner is naked and ready 3.I have sex in order to: A. Experience something transcendent and connect emotionally B. Feel pleasure and connect more deeply to my body or my lover’s body C. Overcome shame, let go of responsibility, or play D. Have a release and feel more relaxed 4.During MOST erotic encounters, I would consider myself: A. Extra Sensory B. Romantic C. Out of the Box D. Mostly Visual 5.My favorite type of music to make love to: A. Sacred, new age, chant, or classical B. Has to be the right song....something soft and sensual C. Something grindy, edgy or dark and moody D. Doesn’t matter 6.Read the following scenarios and choose the one that is MOST arousing to you. A. I can feel the energetic connection between my partner and I. I know from the eye contact that they are right there with me. I feel electricity between us as our bodies get closer and closer together. When touch comes, it feels as though a jolt goes through me. I close my eyes and sense my sexual energy expanding out as if I were making love to the divine. B. A soft fur mitt runs over my skin. I delight in the sensation and a soft moan escapes from my lips. Massage oil is applied to my skin and I am being deliciously and sensually stroked, fingertips grazing over my genitals, teasing for a moment, and moving on. I writhe as my whole body awakens to the erotic. C. “Don’t move,” my lover commands. He/She holds my wrists to the bed and I feel their power. A hand goes around my neck as another goes to my nether regions. “I’m exploring my property,” my lover exclaims. I know I will be taken tonight and the play sends thrills through my whole body. D. No foreplay needed. My partner is naked and ready for penetration. The sex is intense as we thrust passionately together. The orgasm is even more intense and highly pleasurable. We lay together panting and satisfied. 7.When I fantasize, I: A. Have thoughts of something bigger than myself, experiencing myself far outside of my physical body, making love to the divine. I see vivid colors as I focus on emotional connection. B. Imagine romantic scenarios where I am able to luxuriate in sensual play such as slow dancing, eating an amazing meal, being deeply in love, having hot baths or long slow erotic massages before sinking into highly pleasurable lovemaking. C. Think about overpowering someone or being overpowered by someone, fantasize about “out of the box” sexual practices such as impact play (spanking, slapping, paddling, etc.), restraint (handcuffs, ropes, spreader bars, etc) or other kinky activities. D. Picture penetration or prefer to watch adult films 8.During sex, I find myself thinking most about: A. I sense more than I think. I sense emotions my partner may be feeling or things that are hard to explain. B. My mind thinks about all kinds of things – what I didn’t finish at work, how my body looks, something distracting in the room, etc, etc… C. A specific fantasy. Maybe it’s being so irresistible my lover must take me, maybe it’s about being spanked, or maybe it’s about being tied up! D. If I’m thinking, it’s usually about my orgasm or my genitals or the hotness of my lover. 9.What turns you off the most? A. Direct genital touch given too soon or lack of a sense of connection B. Being stuck in my head, tension or distraction C. Lack of something naughty or overwhelming shame/guilt D. Too much complication 10.What do you dislike most about sex? A. It’s too physical and base B. Sexual fluids/the mess C. Feeling guilty or weird during or afterwards D. When there isn’t an orgasm or the orgasm is too quick 11.What best describes you when things go wrong? A. I easily get over sensitive and/or feel misunderstood by my partner B. I tend to feel worried, tense and distracted C. I feel shame about my desires and shut down my pleasure D. I get focused on my performance and having or not having an orgasm 12.What BEST describes orgasms you would like to have? A. Bigger than myself, kryatic, transcendent, mind-altering, spiritual B. Full–body, extended, slow, deep, connected, simultaneous C. Powerful, taken or controlled by another, owned, out of control D. Just as long as I have one any orgasm is great 13.When it comes to touch, I prefer: A. Hovering over my skin B. Long slow sensual strokes C. Nibbles, scratches, and love taps D. Direct genital touch 14.During sex, I MOST enjoy: A. Feeling a sense of oneness and connection to something greater than myself B. Igniting all of my senses into whole body orgasmic bliss C. Surrendering (being ravished) or taking control (power) D. Penetrating or being penetrated 15.Which sex to do you MOST prefer? A. Visualizations and breath B. Fur, feathers or massager C. Restraints and impact toys (hands, paddles, crops,etc) D. Vibrator, dildo, or genitals are good enough 16.Which sex technique do you think you would like to do the MOST? A. Hand/Heart Eye Gaze: Sitting across from one another, hands on our hearts, breathing and gazing into each other’s eyes, feeling our connection and oneness. As we breathe we pulse our pelvic floor muscles to build more erotic energy and intensity between us. We use our intention to send lust/love to each other and orgasmic pleasure moves up our spines. The anticipation builds as we envision the transcendent lovemaking that is about to come… B. Witnessing the Sensory: After a delicious warm bath together where we took turns bathing each other with great smelling soaps, one of us is blindfolded and naked on the bed. The room is warm and the glow of candles flickers in the clean space. Hands slowly and luxuriously run over skin, then feathers, then fur…then tastes begin with delicious chocolates and succulent fruits. Kisses spread from chests to nether regions as moans escape lips… C. Playful Restraint: We look into each other’s eyes as the restraints are placed on wrists. They are tightly pulled, feeling safe and secure. Ropes expertly bind the restraints to our bedposts. Now the ankles, legs spread, secured and helpless. Now this restrained body is ready to be played with, spread eagle, exposed, and waiting to be taken… D. Sex Positions: I know the position that brings me the most pleasure and that gets me to orgasm. Sometimes it is good to mix it up, so a pillow is placed under the pelvis. We focus on genital-to-genital contact, penetration never felt so good… 17.When I took this quiz, I: A. Felt anticipation – What else is possible? B. Thought hard about the answers – I want to answer these correctly. C. Got excited about being freer – I’m not so weird. D. Felt frustrated – Why does all this matter? Let’s just do it. When you are ready, click SUBMIT. Thank you! Time's up
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