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30 March 2020

Salut! I’m Liana, a Certified Sexological Bodyworker™ with over 4 years of experience in somatic sexuality coaching. My mission is to help people expand their understanding about their needs, emotions, values & mindset around sexuality.

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Are you happy in your sex life?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
If not always, then are you happy most of the time?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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To me, it doesn't matter if you're single or partnered.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Also, being always happy isn't possible. But mostly—yes!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Deep connection, powerful meaning, emotional fulfillment & moments of bliss are the ultimate ingredients of sexual happiness.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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From my perspective, with 38 years of life & 455 hours of sexuality coaching work (groups & individuals), erotic happiness requires the following:⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Firstly, our availability for sexual intimacy.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
This breaks down to often putting aside our worries, ideas, and other sh*t, and sitting down for a few moments, with ourselves and our bodies.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Yes, this includes being present with our nasty stuff also (i.e., lack of orgasm or lubrication, premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, dissatisfaction, and so on).⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Secondly, our capacity to choose a partner who sees our sexual needs as equal to theirs. This is way more complicated than the first. And if we have little knowledge about life, sex, people, or lousy track of choices, there's the possible way of listening to our body—silly as it may seem.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Thirdly, support our partners with their desire for sex and despite all odds of life. Not the other way around. We can't compensate for someone else's lack of sexual drive. We can support them to make efforts to find or keep it.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Lastly, put some energy into your playfulness. Or your wildness, if you've often let go & embodied your desires.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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What about sexual techniques, goals, boundaries, etc.? They are part of the foundation—yes! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
But sexual happiness is also possible without focusing too much on them.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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So, are you happy sexually?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Photograph by @libkos⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Perspective by @lianasexualitycoach

Women often equate sex with love.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Sexual exploration, that is!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Women, too, want to explore. Some of the women in my sessions told me they couldn’t find partners for that!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Does that mean there aren’t any exploratory men out there?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Of course, there are!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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It’s just that women want exploratory RELATIONSHIPS, not casual experimental sex.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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In 2017 I had a woman in my coaching sessions saying she so wanted to explore:” So what would your sexual exploration look like?”⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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She answered:” I want to try out new things over time. And take it slowly, have the space to breathe. I want to say yes or no to something without the pressure of losing the man after that. And I’d like my feedback not to be taken as a reproach on his performance.”⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Next, I asked:” And if a man experimented like this with more women simultaneously?”⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I got silence. She sighed then gave me a saddened look.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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”To men, what you just described is a relationship—an exclusive one.”⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Exploration for most men means fun, light, without commitment, or too much fuss sex.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I wager most would read complications and heaviness into this desire, not sexual exploration.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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As a coach, and a woman also, I, too, present the idea that sex with a connection grown over time, we go deeper, and we grow more powerful.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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But this perspective is not attractive for too many men. Or it burdens them over time. Some lose interest or stamina—sadly, this can happen too.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Counterintuitively, women would benefit more if they focused on adventurousness, courage, and exploring the world.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I’m not saying they should have casual sex. I’m talking about their inner states and the vibes they radiate and bring in their committed relationships.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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It's all in the vibes!

Feeding your partner on all levels is a thing of b

There is much lack of pussy—REAL pussy!⠀⠀⠀

Shere Hite was saying this on TV in 1977. Nineteen

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Community comments

I love that this course was engaging and that I felt comfortable watching and listening to the content and techniques, I would recommend this course to friends and colleagues and I wish everyone who is interested in learning about their sexuality be will and be open to this content THANK YOU AGAIN LIANA.

– Abiola Daw

Dear Liana, you are very versed with the subject and very passionate about it. You are very intuitive and have a very genuine way of expressing your mind keeping the learner state of mind in vision. It is a very good course for anyone who wants to start the journey to be a better man. Thank you for putting together such a wonderful course. Love and Peace 🙂

– Satish Saxena

I love Liana’s approach, specifically how she explains both the health and medical benefits of breast massage and expresses sensitivity and kindness when talking about pleasure, at the same time. I also like how she always stresses that any process needs to happen at one’s own pace, and focuses on the gentleness that we, women, deserve to enjoy. Awesome!

– Deliana T.

She is so natural and quite knowledgeable on the course of matter as regards sexuality, I love how she explains and teaches, good course. everyone should enroll for this course and be trained.

– Jessica Sampson

This course was great! I applied the main lesson and it was simply beautiful. The only downside is that neither my partner nor I are getting enough sleep 🙂 Thanks!

– Dr. Thomas Schlegel

I think this course is a good match. Liana has a very direct but tender and relaxed style, which is well-suited to this topic.

– Erin Gardner

I liked it! It is interesting for men and women. Your tips in the end were good (feminine quality), men should listen well! 🙂

– Iman Matuska

Why this is not taught at school! Lovely course, full of insight also in the theory part! I loved the aspect of building the atmosphere for the massage.

– Emanuele De Paoli

I like the information that was given. I am hoping to find out more ways to arouse the Woman’s body, I really liked the massage techniques. I also liked the final videos about sexuality and connecting with partners.

– Kapil Narale

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